Lesbian Dating Rules

lesbian dating rulesLesbian dating can be really amazing if you do it right. Whether you are on a lesbian dating site to try and meet women or whether you frequent gay bars, do not be afraid to go on as many dates as possible. There are some things that you should be doing when you are trying to find a girlfriend and the following lesbian dating rules are what you should really pay attention to.

1. Don't sleep around

While lots of dates with women in order to find the right one is recommended, constantly sleeping around is not. Lesbians can sometimes get a bad rep as being a little promiscuous and you don't want to come across that way because that could attract the wrong kind of women to you. There is nothing wrong with casual sex of course but consider really getting to know a woman if you like her. Going on several dates with the same woman before you take things to the bedroom makes things even more exciting.

2. Make the dates creative

There are only so many types of dates that you can go on but don't be afraid to think outside the box. Constantly going to a restaurant, a bar or the movies can get boring pretty fast and it's also rather costly. An inventive date is fun and also helps you discover if you really are compatible with each other as a couple. Why not go for a romantic picnic in the park? visit a local landmark that you take for granted? Perhaps you could even do some kind of physical activity together for the day and unleash your sporty side. The opportunities are endless so have a look what is available in your area.

3. Find out her situation

Of course it's important to ask all the usual types of questions on a date but you should also discover her situation in terms of sexuality, history with women.etc. Whether she has always known she's a lesbian, she's bisexual or she's only recently dating women after being with men all her life. It's important that you know this because it might give you some kind of insight into how she interacts with you. If she's shy and doesn't make a move it could be because she is new to dating women, rather than the fact she isn't into you. If you do find yourself dating a newly outed lesbian, be a little more compassionate and don't be afraid to make the first move.

4. Listen to her

Don't pretend as a woman that you don't love to talk, so lesbian dating is basically two women trying to talk at the same time. Ask questions and take the time to listen to what she has to say. The two main factors that make up a good date is having fun but also finding out things about one another. Be sure to make eye contact with her as she speaks, like she's the only girl you can see. On the other hand, you should be ensuring that you are also dating women who listens to YOU. If you are dating somebody where it's all about them and they don't seem to care about what you have to say, it just isn't going to work.

5. Do the right thing

When you are dating several women, you will get to the point where you find one you like more than the others. At that point you need to make a choice, whether you want to keep casually dating or if you want to commit to just one woman. One thing you should never do when lesbian dating is lie about your situation. Don't keep going on different dates if they all think that they are the only one. Be honest about your situation and if the time comes where you want to be monogamous, grab it with both hands and let the other women down gently.


Now that you know a little more about the rules of lesbian dating, you should feel a little more confident in meeting women. Don't get impatient, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of girls to find the right one for you. Get yourself out there, show off your personality and everything else should fall into place before long at all.